Grief...

Navigating a world after the loss of someone you loved.
Some Tools To Help You Make Sense Of The World You Now Find Yourself In.
These may be a few of the feelings or thought you may encounter in your journey with grief. These are some things that you may not have thought about, or no one told you about them. They are likely threads of common experience for those who grieve the loss of a loved one.
1) How loud or deafening silence can be when you are all alone.
2) How to fill your time. It may be time that was filled by your loved one; time taken up with tasks; time spent with others...
3) Feeling alone in a crowd of people... be it time with family, friends or in a crowd in general. There can always be an under tone of sadness, because you are wishing your loved one was there to share that time and experience with you. Sadness and grief can coexist at the same time.
4) Feeling like everyone else has that special someone they love to share life with... except you.
5) Putting on that mask every day pretending you are ok... when you are truly sad, lonely or empty on the inside.

Introduction

This is a collection of writings found on my phone through Facebook. Credit was given to authors when possible. This is about a journey you will embark on if you have lost someone or somthing that you loved. It is about navigating a path in life filled with grief as your traveling companion after your loss. I have experienced many of the feelings described within, and I continue to do so. I have found that the words presented have provided a means to identify feelings and experiences. It confirms that many have traveled this road before me, and many more will follow after me. Death, loss and grief are inevitable to the human race... the price of admission.
I would not advise tring to walk out this journey of tackling grief by yourself. I have been blessed to have family and several friends come along side and provide valuable support. I am here to share that my main form of support cocmes through my faith in God. He is always there and faithful. I can tell you from personal experience that in spite of the pain, emptiness and loneliness that is ongoing, I have an underlying peace that my God has a plan and place specifically for my life. This did not catch Him by suprise, and He is more than able to supply my needs. God promises that all who ernestly seek Him will find Him. We see snapshots of our lives, but God sees our lives from beginning to end.
I would encourage you to invite Him into your life as Lord and Saviour. You could speak with a pastor, family or friends for help. You can even say a simple, heart-felt prayer in the solitude of your own space to invite Him into your life, as: "Lord, I know that I have sinned and need your forgiveness. I believe that Jesus Christ died for me and rose from the dead. I invite you into my life to be my Lord and Saviour".
God promises those who turn to Him; "Whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgement but has passed from death to life" ...John 5:24
- Don
Note: The above writings (Memory Stones of Love/Belfast; Grief Speaks Out; Healing Hugs; Grief and Healing in the After loss and others) can be found on Facebook.

Dedication

January 19th, 2024: This collection of writings if offered in honor of my wife, Sue. After being diagnosed unexpectedly with an aggressive form of brain cancer, Sue fought courageously for three months. She passed in the early morning one year ago today. I was blessed beyond measure to have walked beside her and shared life with her for 40 years. I miss the part of me that could have been if she were still here. I miss the unrealized memories that are not shared. I was not finished loving her yet. I am a better version of me because of having her in my life. Life was richer and worth the living with her in it. The best of "US" is yet to come. Our lives are a success, because we accepted Christ. - Don

  • Memory Stones of Love: Kristie Reitz

    Grief... Is feeling a little jealous of seeing others with their loved ones and envious of seeing people in their mundane lives. Feels like dreading holidays and special events instead of how you used to look forward to them. Is trying to pretend you are ok on the outside while feeling torn apart on the inside their name and stories about them. They are never far from our minds anyway. Is learning that these feelings are ever changing, and it will be with us to some degree for the rest of our lives. Is a measure of how much love you gave them while they were here so the pain of losing them fills that empty space. In time we lear how to live with that heaviness. The heartache begins to soften. Tears and smiles can coexist. Is learning how to keep them close to us in other ways. The best memories can never die and because of that, we will carry the grief with us until we see them again. Memory Stones of Love: When you lose someone... When you lose someone, you lose a part of yourself. You lose a reason to smile. You lose the way to your happiness. You lose a shoulder to cry on. You lose a heart that is connected to yours. You don't lose a person; you lose a life. Never Forgotten You'll never be forgotten. That simply cannot be. As long as I am living, I'll carry you with me. Safely tucked within my heart, your light will always shine; A glowing ember never stilled, throughout the emd of time. No matter what the future brings, or what may lie ahead, I know that you will walk with me along the path I tread. So, rest my angel, be at peace and let your soul fly free. One day I'll join your glorious flight for all eternity. Memory Stones of Love I miss you when something good happens, because you're the one I want to share it with. I miss you when something is troubling me, because you are the one that understands me so well. I miss you when I laugh and cry, because I know that you are the one that makes my laughter grow and tears disappear. I miss you all the time, but I miss you the most when I lay awake at night and think of all the wonderful times that we spent with each other, for those were some of the best and most memorable times of my life.

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    Memory Stones of Love: I miss you and my heart will grieve forever. I look upward for a moment... I feel you looking back at me, and death is but another journey, and while you now travel without me, I will always have your love and my memories to warm and comfort me. I still cry at times, but I know that my tears are more for me than for you. One day we will be together for eternity, and until then, I send all my love to you and with it a thank you for having made my life when you were on earth with me a brighter and happier place for me. Memory Stones of Love: I Give Myself Permission... To be silent. To be sad. To cry. To be angry. To be disappointed. To be heartbroken. To be alone. To set boundaries. To walk away. To speak up. To say no. To do nothing. To sleep in late. To love. To have fun. To make mistakes. To feel what I feel with judgement. Memory Stones of Love: Grief is Hard So many things throughout your day remind you of them. You wonder if missing them will always hurt this bad. But at the same time, you never want the pain from missing them to go away because you never want to forget how much you loved them. How much they loved you, and they were worth every tear that fell. Memory Stones of Love: Just Believe Just believe when you say my name, I'm standing right there beside you. I will send you signs and messages and I hope you understand... when your time comes to cross over, I will be there to take your hand. Memory Stones of Love: In those moments of heartbreaking grief, I remember the only reason we have an empty space is because we were blessed with someone who loved us so beautifully. It occupiesd an entire part of our soul. Memory Stones of Love: Grief I had my own notion of grief. I thought it was a sad time that followed the death of someone you loved. And you had to push through it to get to the other side. But I am learning there is no other side. There is no pushing through. But rather, there is absorption, adjustment and acceptance. And grief is not something you complete, but rather you endure. Grief is not a task to finish and move on, but an element of yourself... an alteration of your being. A new way of seeing. A new definition of self.

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    Memory Stones of Love: Angela Miller It took an instant to lose you, and it will take my entire lifetime to grieve the loss of you. Grief never ends because love never ends. I will love you and ache for you until my very last breath. Memory Stones of Love: When I go - Donna Ashworth When I go don't learn to live without me just learn to live with my love in a different way. If you need to see me close your eyes or look in your shadow when the sun shines. I'm there. Sit with me in the quiet and you will know that I did not leave. There is no leaving when one soul is blended with another. When I go don't learn to live without me just learn to look for me in the moment. I will be there. Memory Stones of Love Don't think of her as gone away. Her journey has just begun. Life holds so many facets, earth is only one. Just think of her as resting from the sorrows and the tears, in a place of warmth and comfort where there are no days or years. Think how she must be wishing that we could know today how nothing but our sadness can really pass away. And think of her as living in the heart of those she touched, for nothing loved is ever lost and she was loved so much. Memory Stones of Love: I see you... I have not turned my back on you, so there is no need to cry. I am watching you from Heaven, just beyond the morning sky. I've seen you almost fall apart, when you could barely stand. I asked the Lord to comfort you and watched Him take your hand. He told me you are in more pain than I could ever be. He wiped His eyes and swallowed hard, then gave your hand to me. Although you may not feel my touch, or see me by your side, I've whispered that I love you, while I wiped away each tear you cried. So please try not to ache for me, we'll meet again one day, beyond the dark and stormy sky, a rainbow lights the way. Memory Stones of Love: Scribblesand Crumbs It's fine to feel a little heavy, and it's just fine to sit here and catch my breath; and it's just fine to be a mess at times; and it's just fine to be relatively normal sometimes. It is just fine to miss them. It's just fine to let it all hit me, surrendering and succumbing. And it's just fine to remember that grief has no rules, and that really it will in many ways last as long as love does - Forever.

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    Memory Stones of Love: Last Night Last night you came to see me when the darkness had no light. You stepped into my room and I felt your spirit bright. You told me you were happy and removed from the earthly pain. You said I must believe that our paths would cross again. You told me you were proud of the life I carry on. You said you're keeping close so that I'll never be alone. Last night you came to see me and when morning cam around, I knew I wasn't dreaming by your feather on the ground. Memory Stones of love: Hannah Dearth Grief is so tricky that way. It doesn't really go away. We always carry it. It's kind of like having on a backpack that can't be taken off. Sometimes it is so light I almost forget I have it on. I can even pull out a little memory with a smile. But other times, like the holidays or even when a certain song comes on, it feels like someone has filled it with rocks. It's so heavy I don't understan how I can move forward. But somehow, I do. Memory Stones of Love: There is no solution to grief. It is not a problem to be solved or a task to be completed. It is an unfished jigsaw. It is a puzzle with a piece perpetually lost. You can still tell what the picture is, but there are details missing. Like the sky missing a cloud or the ocean missing a wave. It is still the sky. It is still the ocean. But it quietly incomplete. This is still life. But it is missing a piece. A piece you will always long for. And there is no solution to your puzzle because that piece was shaped to your jigsaw-to your life, to you-and you will never replace it. It is irreplaceable ecause it was shaped uniquely by love. So, it is ok that you'll never quite feel full again. It is ok to know that you'll never feel that true satisfaction of completing the puzzle. This is still love. It is still live. It is just quietly incomplete. Memory Stones of Love: Letting Go The angels gathered near your bed, so very close to you. For they knew the pain and suffering that you were going through. I thought about so many things, as I held tightly to your hand. Oh, how I wished that you were strong and happy once again. Your eyes were looking homeward to that place beyond the sky where Jesus held His outstretched arms, and said it was time to say goodbye. I struggled with my selfish thought. I wanted you to stay so we could walk and talk again, like we did yesterday. But Jesus knew the answer, and I knew He loved you so. So, I gave to you life's greatest gift, the gift of letting go. Now my heart will carry memories of the love you gave to me until we meet again in heaven. where the best of you is yet to be.

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    Memory Stones of Love: Zoe Clark-Coates It's totally acceptable to cry yourself to sleep. It is 100% ok to sob in the shower. It is normal to hide in your beroom, and it is normal to wail on the living room floor. This is what grief looks like. It is not pretty. It is not a delicate tear rolling down one's cheek like the movies portray. It is heart-wrenching sobs, which scream from the soul. It is gasping for air when your chest feels ready to cave in from the weight of the pain that sits on your rib cage. It is begging to God to join the one you long to be with... This is grief. This is mourning and this is the face of loss. Memory Stones of Love: Carol Staudacher Some survivors try to think their way through grief. That doesn't work. Grief is a releasing process, a discovery process. We can't release or discover or heal by the use of our minds alone. The brain must follow the heart at a respectable distance. Certainly, the mind suffers, it is our heart that aches when a loved one dies. The mind recalls; the mind may plot and plan and wish, but it is the heart that will blaze the trail throught the thickest of grief. Memory Stones of Love: Tahlia Hunter To the one who is no longer physically here but is still present... Though you no longer walk beside me physically, I see you in every memory. I feel you in every heartbeat. I hear you in every song. I know you in every thought. I laugh with you in every joy. I cry with you in every sorrow. For though you no longer walk beside me, you have never truly left me, every step of the way and you have never truly gone. Memory Stones of Love: I can't say I loved you. I just can't, because it makes it sound as if my love is past tense. Gone, finished, ended. And that is so far from the truth. My love is not in the past. It will never be gone. I love you now. Still. You don't take all the this love away with you. It stays. It lingers. Some days it jumps up and hits me in the face just to remind me that it is still here. Still preservering. Some days it nudges me. Challenges me to keep going. Daring me to find the strength to get through the day. But mostly it resonates inside of me with everything I do. With every step forward and every glace back. Every close of my eyes. Every breath. My love is not dependent on you being here. There is nowhere far enough, and nothing permanent enough to stop me from loving you. So, I will not say I loved you, because I love you still.

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    • Memory Stones of Love: J. Boyle If only I knew you wouldn't always be here, to hold, to be held, to always be near, to listen, to call, to just know you are there, when I had something I wanted to share. If only I knew that one day you would go and there was more I'd want to know. A past and a future, a lost and a found. If only I'd known you wouldn't be around. If only I knew of the grief I would feel, of the begging and hoping it wasn't real. Of the years and times I took for granted, of the growing seeds that you planted. If only I knew of a moment's value, that it cost nothing to be with you, that the burried treasure was in my chest, living proof that you were the best.
    • I wear a crown of memories on my head, a love, a life, I now live instead. I'll represent every piece of you, I'll live and love my whole days through.
    • If only! If only! If only I had known I'd have clung so tight to stop you going, but I am lucky I live without regret, and proud of the memories I won't forget.

    • Memory Stones of Love: From-When I Am Gone
    • I keep saying I have lost you. And yes, you are not here anymore. But actually, you are not lost. Lost implies something that can never be found again. And you are still here. I admit that sometimes it feels like playing "Hide and Seek". I know you are here somewhere, but sometimes I don't know where to look. And then I see someone walking down the street wearing the shirt of you favorite football team and your presence floods my heart. Sometimes I can't feel you close. But then I walk past someone wearing that fragrance you used to wear, and it is as if you are here holding my hand. Sometimes I feel a little lost myself. But then I find a photo of us both tucked inside a book, keeping my place- and I am found. I know you're here somewhere. Sometimes it feels like I have lost you. But I haven't. Not really. You're just hiding in the corners, waiting patiently for me to find you again.

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    • I remember how joyful it used to be to come home, but then I reflect on how joyful it will be to come home to eternity someday and find you waiting there for me. Your face will light up and you'll say to me "I'm so glad to see you". And hug me tightly. Until eternity.,.. until eternity.

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    Memory Stones of Love: I stood by your bed last night; I came to have a peek. I could see that you were crying. You found it hard to sleep. I spoke to you softly as you brushed away a tear. It's me, I haven't left you, I'm well, I'm fine, I'm here. I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour that tea. You were thinking of many things and memories of me. I was with you at the shops today, your arms were getting sore. I longed to take your parcels; I wish I could do more. I was with you at my grave today, you tend it with such care. I want to reasure you that I am not lying there. I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled your key. I gently put my hand on you, I smiled and said, "it's me". You looked so very tired and sank into a chair. I tried so hard to let you know that I am standing there. It's possible for me to be so near you every day. to say to you with certainty, "I never went away". You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew... in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you. The day is over... I smile and watch you yawning and say, "good night, God bless, I'll see you in the morning" and when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide, I'll rush across to greet you and we'll stand side by side. I have so many things to show you. There is so m uch for you to see. Be patient, live your journey out... then come home to me. Memory Stones of Love: Grief... *Feels like you are moving through a bad dream you can't wake up from. *Is constantly asking"why?" and knowing even if you had the answers, they would never be good enough. *Feeling lost in the places you have been before and being homesick for the past. *Feels like a deep pain you can't seem to pinpoint where it hurts... but the pain is there. *Feeling part of you went away with them oin the day they died. *It's people saying lots of unhelpful things because they want you to feel better. Little do they know when they say "They would want you to be happy/strong" makes us feel we are disappointing the ones we lost for feeling like we do. *Going through the motions of your day in a strange haze.

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    Memory Stones of Love:Grief... continued *Is the constant 'tug-of-war' of holding on tightly to what was and letting go of what might have been.*It's walking through a thick brain fog with your loss always on your mind, but your daily tasks far from it.*It's googling if how you are feeling is normal and desperately looking for a timeline for when you might be better. Being rushed by others to move on makes this even harder to heal on your own time.*Is having the overwhelming feeling of guilt for moving on without them or for things that were said or went unsaid.*Is losing that feeling of "Being Home"*Is the feeling of being alone when you are with a group people.*Shakes you to the core, spins you around and drops you off in the middle of wreckage exposing your vulnerability.*Is judging yourself for not being further than you think you are in your healing. Talking to yourself like you are consoling your best friend if they were going through the same thing.*Can make you feel anger and question your faith. Can feel different from day to day and even hour by hour. There are emotional ups and downs, drop-offs, exhausting climbs and switch backs.*Is the tossing and turning of sleepless nights and just wanting some respite from your own thoughts.*Can't be outran. It catches up with you. Feeling it (even the sharpest edges) is the only way through.*Can sometimes feel like looking at the world through a dark filler with the colors you used to love muted in comparison.*Is whispering "I miss you" and looking everywhere for a sign from them.*Is worring that you will never feel normal and comfortable in your own life again.*Is like just wanting a hug or a simple "I'm here for you" instead of people trying to rationalize your loss or try to fix how you are feeling.*Is the rude awakening that when your whole world has stopped, the rest of the world keeps moving unscathed.

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    Memory Stones of Love:Grief... continued *Feels like choosing to be alone because small talk is exhausting and being with people who can't relate feels even more isolating.*Feels like suffocating on the reality that there will be no new memories so you can hold on so tightly to the past.*Feels like backing out of plans because you are not sure how you will feel on that particular day.*Feels like fear will have seen that life is fragile and that can bring out anxiety and panic attacks.*Is waking up in the morning and it feels like losing them all over again.*Is going about your everyday tasks and being hit with a wave of sadness and disbelief at the realization that they are gone.*Feels like being deep in despair and for some time, it may feel like you don't have a place in this world.*Feels like being back to the first day you lost them after hearing a particular song or driving past a place you enjoyed together.
    Memory Stones of Love:I'll be your legacy, I'll be your voice, you live on in me, so I've made the choice to honor your life by living again. I love you. I miss you. I'll see you again.

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  • Grief Speaks Out

    Grief Speaks Out: My 10 Rules of Grief... 1. There are no rules. Period. 2. I will grieve my way; Not your way. My way may not make sense to you, but it doesn't make sense to me either. 3. The grief timeline is long. If I begin to move on in 2 months, something is wrong. If I move on in 2 years, be impressed. 4. Hugs are, and will always be, better than words. 5. You ask me how I am; I will always answer politely. The truth is not pretty. 6. If I question my faith, no one condemn me. 7. Yes, I am blessed to have other children. But the pain from losing one is worse than agony. 8. Consider me a patient of Grief United General, the first part of my healing begins with a lengthy stay in the ICU. Treat me, accordingly. 9. Do not try to understand my overwhelming emotions. It will exhaust us both. 10. Honor my pain by walking with me, not directing me. 11. I am not a victim. I'm grieving. Treat my journey with respect and compassion, for your turn will come. 12. I know this is more than 10 rules. That's because grief doesn't ever make sense.

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    Grief Speaks Out: Ellen Everett Are you ok they ask; I respond as quickly as I can so they will not notice the earthquakes in my voice or the tsunamis in my eyes or the drought in my heart. Grief Speaks Out: It's not the kind of sadness to where you cry all the time, but more like the sadness that overwhelms your whole body, leaving your heart aching and your stomach empty, making you feel weak and tired, and yet you can't even sleep because the sadness is in your dreams too. God bless. Grief Speaks Out: When I can't sleep at night, I look out the window and wait for you to come home. I know you can't come home but, I look for you anyway. Part of me still can't accept you are never coming home again. Grief Speaks Out: I love you past the moon and miss you beyond the stars. Grief Speaks Out: Time slips by and life goes on, but from my heart you are never gone... I think about you always, I talk about you too, I have so many memories, but I wish I still had you. Grief Speaks Out: Grief is a balancing act. Most days I find myself falling over. Getting up. Falling over. Staying down. Getting up. It's exhausting. Grief Speaks Out: Nicholas Sparks "There's nothing you can say to make a person stop hurting. Half the time, I just like telling them the truth. I'd say that for 3 months, you're going to feel worse than you've ever felt, and you cope the best you can. And that after 6 months, the pain isn't so bad, but it still hurts more than you think it will. And even after years, you still find yourself thinking about the person you lost and get sad about it. And you still miss them all the time". Grief Speaks Out: Ehssan "Life is like a piano, the white keys repress happiness, and the black keys show sadness. But as you go through life's journey, remember the black keys also create music".

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    Grief Speaks Out: To no longer see your face breaks me every day. So suddenly you were taken that I didn't get to say just how much I love you and that you were my life. The hurt I felt when you passed cut me like a knife. I'll never be complete again. I will never be free from this grief, a solid thing deep inside of me. I wear a mask of coping, but I am in complete despair. I cannot mend what is broken. My heart's beyond repair. I'll smile if I must, but it's just a mask. And I'll say I am ok when people kindly ask, but I cannot be happy. It is something I lack. Never will be whole again for I cannot get you back. Grief Speaks Out: Part of grief is feeling like I no longer fit in a world I once belonged to. Grief Speaks Out: Nothing replaces how it felt to be with you. I can be thankful for many things but there is an emptiness where you used to be, and nothing can fit it exactly except you. Grief Speaks Out: Samantha Young You would think after numerous attacks of grief the human body would be unable to process any more sadness. But our hearts have an annoying amouunt of endurance. Grief Speaks Out: Mary Higgins Clark "It's funny how, even long after you've accepted the grief of losing someone you loved and truly have gotten on with your life, every once in a while, something comes up that plays 'Gotcha', and for a moment or two the scar tissue separates, and the wound is raw again". Grief Speaks Out: It's exhausting... Every morning, I wake up and I go to war... with my body, with my mind, with the world around me. Every day is a struggle to keep my life as close to normal as possible while fighting negativity and despair. Grief Speaks Out: I realized today that I have stopped living my life. I'm literally just trying to get to the next day, just living in the thought of tomorrow. I'm not living, I'm waiting. And the trouble is I don't know what I'm exacly waiting for. I'm kind of scared for what it might be.

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    Grief Speaks Out: The silence isn't so bad, until I look at my hands and feel sad. Befcause the spaces between my fingers are right where yours fit perfectly. Grief Speaks Out: I feel so sad and lonely without you. I am lost and I don't know how to begin to find myself again. Grief Speaks Out: I feel lost, lonely and frightened without you. Please let our love bring light to help me find my way. Grief Speaks Out: William H. Woodwell, Jr. People think they know you. They think they know how you are handling a situation. But the truth is no one knows. No one knows what happens agter you leave them, when you're lying in bed or sitting back over your breakfast alone and all you want to do is cry or scream. They don't know what's going on inside your head- the mind-numbing cocktail of anger and sadness and the guilt. This isn't their fault. They just don't know. And so, they pretend, and they say you are doing great when you're really not. And this makes everyone feel better. Everybody but you. Grief Speaks Out: Grief sometimes looks like this. Even if I'm smiling my heart is crying. When I say I'm fine I'm not fine. If you look closely at me, you can always see that I'm not fine. But most people look away. Grief Speaks Out: Jodi Picoult What no one told me about grief is how lonely it is. No matter who else is mourning, you're in your own little cell. Even when people try to comfort you, you're aware that now there is a barrier between you and them made of the horrible thing that happened that keeps you isolated. Grief Speaks Out: The truth is, you'll always grieve, but you'll always love. You always long to hold the love you can no longer see, but after time, you'll see that love is everything you touch. Love doesn't just reside in our hearts, it grows there.

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    Grief Speaks Out: Grief is like being lost in a forest. I no longer know where I am or who I am. There is no clear path. I don't know what lurks behind the trees. I have to take that first step, but you don't know what it is. I will find my way as others have before me, but it will be a different way. I will rediscover who I am, but it will be a different me. Some call it the new normal. No matter how full of love and joy and even peace I may learn to have in my new life it will never feel normal again. Grief Speaks Out: Grief is waiting and watching, watching and waiting for one thing that can never happen. How is it possible you are not coming home to me again? Grief Speaks Out: I remember the last time you walked through our front door. Since that day... This 'house' doesn't seem like our home. Grief Speaks Out: Each day when the sun rises, a part of me is glad I am getting closer to seeing you once again while a part of me is broken as it reminds me of how long it has been since I last had you in my life and by my side. Grief Speaks Out: I thought I had grieved... cried all the tears I had, but now I saw the desert of grief that lay before me. It could go on and on. The human body was 80% water; That means I was literally made of tears. Grief Speaks Out: It Seems as though grief is a place where nothing can grow. Then a memory or the sweet flower reminding me of our love bursts through. Love is stronger than death... always. Grief Speaks Out: Grief is like a shadow. It follows me. Even on sunny days there is a shot of darkness around me. But shadows are only where there are rays of light first. You were that light.

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    Grief Speaks Out: Sorry For Your Loss When others say 'Sorry for your loss' it may sound perfunctory, even trite. But what I mean is I am sorry you wake in the night gasping for breath, your heart racing in agony. I am sorry that you will know a lifetime of what 'What if's' and 'Could have beens'. I am sorry that you ache for one more minute with your love knowing it can never be. When I say 'Sorry for your loss' please know my soul is reaching out to yours in understanding and trying very hard to take away just one little ounce of your pain... Donna Ashworth- 'Loss' Grief Speaks Out: I Never Know When I Am Going To Miss You And It Happens All The Time I never know when I will miss you. I can't ever predict just what will grip my heart with the reminder that you are gone. It could be anything, because I am reminded of you everywhere. I remember you are gone when I'm in a room full of people and I notice you are missing when I am all alone. I feel you absence in joyful melodies, and I hear your memory when the music is imbued with melancholy. You are nowhere and everywhere all at once. When the days are bright, I am blinded by your presence and even when the world is dark, I still manage to find you. In laughter, I hear the echo of losing you. Your presence is overflowing the tears that fall. Now that your body is gone, everything holds your being. I miss you in the cold depth of winter and I long for you in the thick summer breeze. You are my first rising thought in the morning and my last notion as I sink into the heaviness of the night. I thought ew ranb out of moments together, but every moment seems to belong to you. How can you be everywhere when you are nowhere to be seen? I used to worry about facing the world because I didn't know what would trigger my heartache. I used to be afraid of everything, every memory and every moment. All we can do is try. To let ourselves feel it when it comes. And let it go when we can. Ther very worst part is that the minute you think you are past it, it starts all over again. And always, every time it takes your breath away.

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